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How do I keep a New Year's Resolution? | Confident Stylings

Christmas is now behind us (I hope you had a lovely one) and we're now looking to the future and all the excitement that a new year brings. Many of us choose to make New Year's resolutions, but how many of us can say we actually stick to them? I can but then that's because I'm amazing. I'm joking. Kind of. However, I do know some pretty helpful tools to make sure you actually stick to your goals.

Make your goals SMART

I've touched on SMART goals in a previous blog but this stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time specific. It's no use saying that you want to 'improve' in 2019. How do you want to improve? What do you want to achieve exactly? How will you do it? How will you know when you've done it? Etc, etc. I think a key one to highlight here is making sure the goal is attainable.

Don't set yourself up for failure by choosing a resolution that in reality may be quite difficult to achieve, or say you're going to do it in a week when in reality it could take much longer. This will only make you feel crap when you don't manage to reach it. Which, in turn could make you less likely to want to try again.

Remind yourself of your goals regularly

A trick I find really useful for sticking to my resolutions is to write down my goals. I find having it in writing just makes it that much more concrete. It also makes it so much easier to remind yourself of your goals and keep these in your mind. I personally like to reflect on my goals daily but this might not be feasible for everyone. Having a clear picture in your mind should help you to follow your new routines to reach your achievements.

Note down your achievements

Whilst also ensuring your goals are measurable (so you know when you've actually achieved what you set out to do) I find it great to write down my smaller achievements. During the time I spend reflecting on my goals of an evening (party, party), I like to also note down something I've achieved that day which relates to my overall goals. I find this helps me to stay on track and keep moving ahead. It's also a great mood and confidence booster. It means I can look back and see everything I have accomplished and feel real smug, which in turn continues to motivate me to keep going. Again, you may not have the time, or inclination, to do this daily but it's a good idea to check in on fairly regular basis.

Deal with your obstacles head on

If you do happen to flounder for a moment on your way to success, don't immediately give up and feel rubbish. Instead reflect on what went wrong and how you can overcome it. Note down what the stumbling block was and how you think you could overcome this in future. If you're struggling with this a good idea is to imagine you are advising a friend, what would you say to a loved one to help them through this? Sometimes distancing yourself from the problem at hand can help you to achieve clarity and a solution.

Whatever your New Year's resolutions are I wish you the best of luck , which of course you don't even need because you know you've got this. A very happy 2019 to you all. Go out there and make it the best year yet!

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